Hi,
SWFContent Pro is designed just for embedding flash to Joomla. The insides of the flash, like you mentioned with the play controls, must be programmed in the swf file.
There are lot of flash video players which you can download free or commercial. For example
JW Player.
This would be an example how to embed the JW Player, in particular with the following settings:
flashVars: file=yourvideofile&autostart=true
allowfullscreen: true
allowscriptaccess: always
And if you wish you can switch on dynamic rendering. (Create alternative content using standards compliant markup and embed Flash content with unobtrusive JavaScript. Avoids 'click-to-activate' mechanisms in Internet Explorer 6+ and Opera 9+. The embedding of Flash content relies on JavaScript. If you switch Javascript off, only the alternative content will be displayed.)
Hope this helps you further.
Kind regards,
Milton